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Illana Berger, PhD

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Conscious Relationships and Mindful Divorce

Most days you will find me walking along the bluffs of the ocean in Santa Cruz, California communing with the ocean, the wind, the people walking by or watching the surfers navigating the ocean currents. 

It is here that I find my center, my joy. It is here that I remember for myself and for you that life is filled with movement. Nothing is static. The question for each of us is how do we move with the changes and currents in our lives and in our relationships?

Loving begins in this moment. Love of our self, love for our partner, lover or spouse, love for our children, love for our Earth and love for the journey we are gifted each and every day.

Together we can meet what is here, now, and traverse the landscape of your life so that the adventure is met with honesty, authenticity and vulnerability. These three virtues are what turn our lives into a powerful and beautiful journey.



Illana Berger, PhD

A teacher wrote: "Every act of love is a deep unknowing, a plunge into life that we're aware, even as we do it, will contain sorrow, may end in grief, but has its own necessity." This is the risk we take each time we consider and then agree to enter into a love relationship with another.  It is an an act of bravery and courage to get romantically involved and/or marry and an equal act of bravery and courage to divorce.

I have done both.

I understand and have great empathy for anyone and everyone who dares to love. I know intimately the fear you feel when your beloved informs you that they are no longer in love with you. I also know what it is like to be at the end of your rope with the arguments, the disagreements and the hurts, and just want something else, something easier, kinder, more loving, more fun, less stress.


I have done both.

AND, I know, understand and encourage you to listen and trust the pull, the imperative to get help and see if your marriage or relationship can be saved.  

Deciding to confront the difficulties in your relationship is a deep dive into your own inner life. It requires a willingness to look at yourself, your triggers, your habits, your gifts and curses. This is at the heart of the work we do together.​

Please contact me to set up a free 15 minute consultation to discuss how I can support you and your relationship.

What to do

Have a look around and see what service is best for you.

You’re here because you know things aren’t quite right.

Something feels like it is missing. It’s not like it used to be. You feel like you want or need more. You're fed up and have had enough.

Frustrated. Fearful. Dissatisfied.

You’re in the right place. Mindful Divorce or Relationship Coaching can help you. We all exist in relationship. The quality of our relationships has a tremendous impact on our happiness, our joy and our peace of mind not to mention our impact and productiveness in the world.


One-on-One with Illana 

1st Time Clients

Waking Up to the Boundlessness of Your Heart Virtual Meditation
Fridays 5:00 - 6:30
New 6 Week Series Begins
January 20, 2023




Working with me is an invitation to live your life from a consciously aware perspective and discover the truth of who you are. This means living intentionally and honestly, following your inner guidance, expressing your authentic voice and being open to living fully the life you have in this very moment.

You begin to let go of the habits and reactive conditioning that keeps you separate and alone in your suffering. Working together you will learn to cultivate a compassionate heart, a commitment to your greatest self, and a willingness to live in this moment rather than the past. You will also learn how to free yourself from the self preserving and limited thinking that sabotages the love you are, the love you give and the love you seek .

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"I visualized the ideal "Coach/Counselor" for me, as I had been frustrated with my run of therapists and found very few who could reach me in the way I need/desire. Frankly, I couldn't find one that was any good at what they did. Everything I imagined that day, I got once I met you. I wanted you to know how how grateful I am that our paths have crossed and that I found someone who could hold my journey with me as you have. Thank you."  JJB 

"I have to say that in my entire life I have never met a more powerful spiritual woman who is advancing the consciousness of this planet.  I am so grateful you assisted me to forgive my ex-husband and now in 24 hours a true transformation with my daughter.

There are no words for my gratefulness and the payment is so small for what you have given me. Thank you" MCK

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Tel: 510-759-8758


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